Showing posts with label self help guide. Show all posts
Showing posts with label self help guide. Show all posts

Friday, December 11, 2009

Me, myself and my independence

Being independent and living up to being one is an act of great responsibility which everyone yearns for. Some are supposedly independent as early as in their post teen years and some, in country like ours, are still not, even in their sixties. Does that mean being independent is a frame of mind that depends on our thought processes and the way we think?

I have seen people who are in a family, with many of authoritative people around but yet to have an opinion. They think, talk and most of the times, live by what they believe in. On the contrary, some who have been living alone since tender age still do not quite have their opinion, their free thinking power, their might. What I want to say is, independence is not as much as in our apparent decision to live all by ourselves as in being able to think, reason and live independently. I agree, living by our own means and deciding on several small earthly issues and subsequently, seeing it happen do make us individuality enough to take a decision. But being independent is not just that, I guess.

I feel, being independent is not just about having to make a living out of your profession, going to the market, buying vegetables and then eating and tomorrow is an another day! My ability to think for myself and having the power to see the broader view of what we are thinking and what we are not make me strong. The power to decide between the right and the wrong, the power to reason as I believe in and to stand by it whenever situation arises not only makes me independent but also beautiful.

Friday, July 31, 2009

My journey to happiness...


"Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means that you've decided to look beyond the imperfections."

1. The happiest people are those who spend the least time alone and pursue intimacy and personal growth

2. Happy people don't judge themselves by what others do or have. That is, they don't compare themselves with others.

3. The strongest link to happiness is a willingness to forgive others.

4. Follow your heart. Once in a while indulge in pampering yourself with a good pedicure, manicure or a foot massage. Eat chocolates, hot dogs, junkies and all alluring stuffs that you are not supposed to have.

5. Appreciate, thank and praise more often. Express yourself long and aloud.

6. Do not carry your baggage from past

7. Devote more time to people who matter. Spend quality time with your family, with friend with parents, kids.

8. Revive good old memories. Once in a week make sure to talk to someone who had once been very close to you.

9. Let go, forgive, forget, move on. When someone says that you are a bad person it doesn't really make you bad, isn't it? You must not be slaves to others thoughts. So, ignore and just let go.

10. Expect less from others. A lot of unhappiness occurs when we do not get in return what we expect. When you buy a gift for someone, make sure you do it just out of the love and not presuming the return.

11. Increase your self esteem. Instead of nagging over a crooked nose try to live with it. Instead highlight how beautiful your eyes are!

12. Motivate yourself. Self motivation is the best possible thing to happen. Work harder, set a target and think positive.

13. Have your values right. Do not mix up your sense of values.

14. Take a break, kill the monotony. Go for a pleasure trip or unplanned adventure - it surely helps. Just freak out, yell, sing, dance, let out your emotions once in a while.

15. Capitalize on little little things in life. Play with the children, have chocolate, flirt with friends, make faces, be a child. This will add up to your emotional bank account.

16. Stay fit, keep healthy, be conscious. Health should be the no. 1 priority in life. An unhealthy man is essentially not happy.

'Happiness is nothing more than good health and a bad memory.'